Cruel Intentions

Do people really hurt the ones they love?



She's a strong-minded career 27-year-old woman. Smart, friendly and sexy, she should be someone's ideal girl right? She does love someone. He is sweet, caring, loving and thoughtful. He's also smart, and he's also friendly. And he does seem to love her too.



But he has a girlfriend. He has a girlfriend all along and they are now planning to get married. And she doesn't know how it all came to this. This heart wrenching pain that grips her soul every time he pleads with her not to let go. The pain, so severe, that sometimes she just wants to say, 'what the heck, I want to be happy, never mind what others will say'.



She's well past that stage. Before it came to all of these, she has been through that. Against all her friends' advices, she continued to have this relationship with someone who seems to love someone more than he loves her. But she thought he's changing his mind. If there is probably a prayer she whispered daily, it's that he would love her more than he does the other girl. So she continued to understand, and she continued to just be there, wishing with all her being that he changed his mind. She thought she's succeeding.



But of course, it was all at the surface. Deep down, he's still choosing the girlfriend over her. He still loves someone who was in another country more than her who is with him constantly. Whenever the girl comes back to visit, his world stops for her. And she was cast aside until the girlfriend is gone and he's going to come crawling back to her side.



It sounds so cruel, especially now that the situation is different. Now that the two are planning to get married. And it sounds doubly cruel because the he wouldn't let her go, and he wouldn't let the fiancée go either. He said he's not going to let her go.



I don't know what it feels like to be her. It would be so easy to judge her, calling her stupid and not using her mind enough. It would be so easy to judge him, calling him cruel for doing this to her and his girlfriend, trying to keep them both. It would be so easy to tell them both that they are being selfish and not thinking of each other. It would be so easy. Yet I never take the easy path.



I don't like to judge because I too would like to hold on as long as I can if I find someone I can love. I would also wish and pray that he change his mind. I would also go down on my knees and ask the Lord to tell me what to do and to let me have the will to do it. I, too, would like to have it all, have my cake and eat it too. They maybe cruel intentions to our eyes, but who are we to judge really?



And we are all like that. We all have some of that in us. And we have no right to judge when are guilty of the same thing. But although I understand what she's going through, and am guilty of it sometimes, I always remind myself to love someone else does not mean demeaning myself. That giving it all does not mean not leaving something for myself at all.



Oh well, only she can decide now what to do. He has already decided what path to take and she has to decide how to react. It's easy to say what we will do in her place, but the thing is, we are not she, and we can only have an inkling of what she's going through.



Do people really hurt the ones they love? Boy, some people really do love us a lot then eh?