Isn't Love Grand?

LOVE is not gazing into each other's eyes; IT IS LOOKING TOGETHER IN THE SAME DIRECTION.



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Isn't love grand?



First, you fell in love. It really feels as if this will last forever. You love the way your hands fit together, or the way your head fits his shoulders when you lean on it. You like the way he smells and his smiles, oh his smiles can melt you like ice exposed to noontime heat. And it feels like love. Sounds like love. Isn't this what it's all about? How happy you two are together?



So what if he chooses his dog over you sometimes? Or so what if you argue constantly about the tiniest detail? You say that just add more spark to the relationship, the making up really far outweighs all those name-calling and shouting matches you often have. Or on the other side of the spectrum there is the seemingly nice boyfriend that you have. Gives you flowers, won't let you out of his sight without him rolling the red carpet for you. It makes you feel suffocated just by the sheer attention you're getting. Will he jump off the cliff if you ask him to? Would you really like a boyfriend to be at your beck and call, following all your whims and wants and not have a life of his own?



That is, if you have a relationship. If you are not in one, there are still all those kinds of love. Or so we thought. I have been holding a torch all those years for someone who might never even remember how much fun we had as best friends ten years ago. Pathetic, isn't it? And here I thought that torch has been extinguished completely but there may be a spark left there somewhere for it to burn bright again every time his name is mention. There is also the love that is never returned. Painful and sweet, breaks your heart every time. The pain is so constant you don't know what it's like to live without it. Such is love, but I still think love is grand.



Call me stupid and romantic if you like, but it's because I still think that there is HOPE, that the true love I've been waiting for will come if not sooner then maybe later. And I don't mean the kinds of love I mention in here. The love that brings two people together and let them stick together until they grow old. That is the kind of love I'm hoping for. I'll probably still think him the most handsome man in the planet, if only in my blinded love struck eyes, although I'll know it's not true. He'll have flaws. He'll have imperfections that I will relish in teasing him constantly over the next years. As I certainly don't want to be the only flawed character in our love story.



But our imperfections only make us more perfect together. Because what really matters is that we have the same beliefs in God, children and life goals. These are not similarities like same taste in music, and same liking in movies and books, although that will help. These are far deeper matters that cannot be compromised. We should both understand where we want to be. Understand also that we believe in the same God and know whether we like children or not. This is what I think it means when lovers may be looking at each other's eyes, but that old married couples are holding hands and looking at the same direction. Therein lies the big difference.



Now how can I think love is grand? Well, as I am writing this, I suddenly realized that I've been sitting on my butt waiting for my man to come but in reality I can look for him. I know my beliefs and I'll just look for someone who shares my views on things and hope with all my heart that we got bless with the magic that is as important as the things I mentioned above. How can I not think that love isn't grand? The journey to true love is one hard work, but it should be fun to watch what one person will do and won't do for love.



I'll end this journal entry with a quote from a movie that I like and that struck me then, and stays with me until now.



Will Hunting (Matt Damon) : I'm happy as it is. She's perfect now. Why should I ruin that perfect image I have of her?



Sean Maguire (Robin Williams): You're not perfect sport, and let me save you the suspense, this girl you've met she's not perfect either. But the question is whether or not you're perfect for each other.



Matt Damon's remark is as I remember it but I memorized Robin william's part. That is the important thing anyway. Let's not look for the perfect one, let's find someone who's perfect for us.



*This is a re-post, if you can call it that. I've sent this to my friends many months ago. But since I can't think clearly these days, probably until next week, I'll keep on posting my previous writings before I started this blog.